Hatmaker Blog

I recently came across a blog written by Jen Hatmaker, a fellow adoptive mom, and her latest post really hit home with me so I thought I would share part of it...

So for those of you trying to dodge the idea of adoption because your marriage is not perfect and you don't have your crap entirely together, please let me dispel the notion of "necessary impeccability." I'm learning this: Orphaned kids don't need a perfect family...they just need a loving one. You needn't be fit for display and ready for the adoption speakers' circuit.

Can you enter into the grief of a child and stay there until God heals? Do you have room on your lap for another daughter who would delight in the same "Carl Books" you read the rest of your kids? Could you direct your diligence toward becoming a healing parent, even if that just means listening and affirming and acknowledging and holding a child through the storm? Can you be miraculously, fantastically present for a child that is positive you too will disappear one day? Do you have the gumption to be oh-so-very consistent with boundaries and discipline, understanding that requiring their respect supplies them with the very security they crave in a parent who is actually in charge, freeing them up to be a kid instead of a survivor?

Then Kelly Ripa or not ("Be even more amazing!"), you can throw your hat in this ring.

You can read the rest of the post by clicking here.

Goodbye Summer

I have been slacking big time in the blogging department the past few months but I am determined to get back on track. After all, I count on this blog to help me keep track of milestones and funny things my kids do. I just recently realized this when I was trying to play catch-up on the boys' scrapbooks (one of many of my excuses for being behind). Without my past blog posts, my scrapbooks would have been all pictures without much journaling because I am slowly realizing with each passing year, my memory fails me more and more. I can hardly remember what we did last weekend much less the details of an activity we did 6 months ago. Anyways, since summer is over (sob, sob)... I thought I would do a quick recap of some of the highlights.

SAM

Towards the end of July we decided to move Sam to his "big boy" bed. This meant taking down the crib and getting out the toddler bed. We had been contemplating this move for a couple of months but just didn't know how he would do. He surprised us both and did great! He was pretty good about staying in his bed... for the most part. The 2nd or 3rd night after moving to the toddler bed I heard Joey say "Mom... MOM!!!!" It's not like Joey to wake up in the middle of the night so I jumped out of bed and went into his room. He was sitting up in his bed and when I asked what was the matter, he said "What is HE doing in my bed?" I then looked over and saw Sam laying on the pillow next to Joey. Sam looks up at me and says "night, night mommy"... the looks on both of their faces was priceless. Luckily Sam went back to sleep (in his own bed) and has been pretty good ever since.



My littlest man with his big boy bed!



JOEY

Joey had a busy summer. He took swimming lessons and played soccer through the park district. Daycare kept them busy too with numerous field trips. Some of his favorites were going to the zoo, county fair and picking berries at a local berry farm. Before this summer he hadn't shown much interest in riding his bike but that changed a few months ago. Now he and the neighbor boy ride their bikes up and down the sidewalks and he wants to ride his bike whenever we go on walks. Now summer is over and he's starting another year of preschool. He is still at the same place but will be in a different preschool class with a different teacher. He had a great teacher last year and has another great one this year so we've been very fortunate. He loves school and it's so fun sharing in his excitement when he learns something new. It's hard to believe he'll be starting kindergarten next year but I think he'll be ready... I might not be ready, but he will.   



1st Day of Preschool

 And I'll leave you with one of my favorite pictures from this summer...


Best friends!